We're always worthy. Always.
I was reading an article in a CPA magazine that talked about goals for the new year. It had suggestions, including "Offer yourself a reward for achieving your goal." Yes, rewards for achievement. What a brilliant concept. It's right up there with being born in sin. By default, we're bad. Only when we're good should we allow ourselves something wonderful.
The heck with that idea. If one is here, one is worth being here. No one has to prove that they're good, that they're deserving, that they need to EARN having something wonderful happen. Why not allow something wonderful every single moment of every single day? It's not like there's a shortage of wonderfulness. There only is if one chooses to view a limitation on good things and/or that they're undeserving of good experiences.
I once read a book about... I don't remember what it was about. It probably had a spiritual bent, because that's what I was reading at the time. A counselor of sorts was helping people achieve certain things, or otherwise calm down their busy lives. She noted that one overworked office clerk said that if she ever had the luxury of a spare moment, she'd clean out her desk. That's what the woman would do with her spare time, if she had any. She couldn't imagine anything more thrilling beyond that.
What I remember most about that book, though, was the exercise of adding something physical to an emotional desire. Such as, the counselor walked a bridge with one man who wanted to change something about his life. The bridge was a symbol of the journey to a new way of thinking. When they reached the other side, that was his starting point to what he wanted to be different. The physical activity of walking the bridge also was a way of engaging his body with his new desired outlook.
That made sense to me. This counselor also had people jumping off chairs while verbalizing what they wanted. It was a way of generating fun and enthusiasm for, say, "I want a new car!", rather than just sort of apologetically muttering, "I want to get a new car," as though one already accepts THAT'S never going to happen. Or they're justifiably afraid the listener will start off with well-intended negativity of "How are you going to afford it?" and so forth.
In any case, I stopped doing goals a long time ago. I don't miss them. Especially not the "have to/need to" feel of them. I'm too busy enjoying what's happening NOW.
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